Our class on stress management had 12 students, an interesting mix.
They were mostly Black, with only one woman, a pastor’s wife. We had a textbook, but we put together a curriculum of “Stress Points in Life” from baby years, toddlers, school age, adolescence, dating, marriage, stress of children, finances, illness and accident, wayward children, elderly parents, role reversal, death of family members, and retirement.
We shared personal experiences in all these areas, and there were interesting class discussions. The emphasis was on how we handled the stress and how pastors should be alert to hurting members. The South African marking system was explained to us, and it took some getting used to. 75–100 A, 69–74 B, 60–68 C, 50–59 D, 49 and below E – fail
We brought 20 books with us to use in the class. We asked the students to choose 3 to borrow and write a book report. The books were very appreciated, especially: Love Must Be Tough, Depression, Making Stress Work, Healing for Damaged Emotions, Win Over Worry, and Running on Empty. We also showed several of Dobson’s videos, which were very helpful. At the end of the class, we gave all the books and videos to the library.
The students were given daily assignments and book reports or papers to turn in. They all had stress in their lives, having grown up under the apartheid rule. So they could relate to the stress points covered in class and appreciated the personal sharing. One of them said, “You are the only teachers we’ve ever had who shared their own personal lives.”
One day, we were discussing marriage, and the subject of the bride price came up. Young Luzuko (planning to be a pastor) asked how a young pastor with a salary of R800/month could possibly pay R4,000 bride price plus several thousand for the wedding. Elathea (pastor’s wife) said her father hadn’t required a bride price for any of his daughters. Interesting discussion!
One student admitted on his homework paper to having no goals and suffering burnout. He told us he was in tears reading Dr. Dobson’s book, Healing for Damaged Emotions. We also had to deal with a situation when two almost identical papers were turned in. They were from good friends, and both denied any wrongdoing.
The class we taught was in the morning, so we had free time in the afternoon. We enjoyed exploring the area around PMB and learned which places were safe to visit. There was so much violence and killing and house burnings in the Black township of Edendale, about 5 miles from PMB. The main road out to Edendale went right past the seminary, and every morning the taxis (long minivans) poured past by the hundreds, crammed full of Africans coming in to work for the day. (We didn’t go near Edendale.)
We also liked to walk around in Pietermaritzburg, a beautiful Victorian city with fountains and pedestrian malls. But we had to be very careful as there had been incidents of mugging on the streets. I didn’t carry my purse at all. One afternoon, we went to the movie Cry Freedom. Very well done and quite moving. Until recently, it was banned in South Africa. It was very sympathetic to the plight of the blacks and exposed police brutality.